On becoming ladylike

Ladylike or not  by CeliaSue Hecht

someone recently told me that

since I had cursed at him

(for good reason)

I was not being ladylike

who the hell wants to be

ladylike? I said

who the hell aspires to be

ladylike?

who the hell wants to behave

like a lady?

I have not wanted to become

ladylike since I was 14 years old

and even then

it was negotiable

acting ladylike wasn’t any fun

I could not climb trees

or play stoop ball

nor ringolevio

my tomboy self rebelled

against becoming ladylike

in any way

until I started liking boys

and thought I had to

conform

and become a lady

overnight

acting dumb

and pretending to be weak

becoming ladylike

is code for becoming powerless

the girdles pinched

and the make-up

high heels and skirts

restricted my every movement

instantly I felt fat

some other girls

felt flat

each of us hated ourselves

for not being ladylike

enough

in other words not being

attractive enough to boys

who only liked other girls

and models in magazines

we could never live up to

being ladylike enough

for those boys and men

we berated ourselves

with each and every flaw

counting our freckles

and doing damage to our

hair, faces and bodies

all in the name of

becoming ladies

no pain no gain

we mantra’d

we went on diets

and became bulimic

and anorexic

and exercised until we had

no more periods

or

until we became liberated

and threw away our bras

but even then in the back of our

minds, inside our heads

we still were never good and

ladylike enough

even after going to charm school

and reading Miss Manners

outwardly we spoke up

and raised our consciousness

but inside we continued to feel

inferior

ashamed because we were never

ladylike enough

mothers felt guilty and wrong for staying home

and for going outside the home to work

single women were ambivalent

about sex and getting married

divorce meant the whole world knew

that we were never going to be ladylike

enough EVER

being a lady means

keeping your legs together

NO MATTER WHAT

wearing clean underwear

in case of a car accident or

what if you get hit by a bus?

controlling your mouth

no cursing nor telling dirty jokes allowed

no yelling or expressing your opinion

ladies, like children, should be seen and not heard

fists and bowels clenched

no belching, burping or passing wind

no vulgar displays of your sexuality

DO NOT dress like a slut

no sweat pants or crude lewd dresses

never lose your temper

or speak your truth to power

when out in public, know your place

inside and outside the home

KNOW your PLACE

being ladylike is related

to being a good little girl

who lives  her life seeking daddy’s approval

(and never attaining it)

while there is something to be said

for acting classy, elegant and polite

being ladylike can be a prison cell

here is a shocker:

Even Ladies like sex

so go forth and BE YOUR SELF

according to YOUR OWN DEFINITION

of what it means to be a Lady/woman

and forget about being ladylike

Move Over Barbie, Twinkies and Ho Hos…

http://www.upworthy.com/move-over-barbie-8212-youre-obsolete

http://sassifiable.com/being-a-lady/

Why Mitt Romney lost

cannot imagine why mitt lost the election, seems like a real head scratcher…

http://www.real-time-with-bill-maher-blog.com/real-time-with-bill-maher-blog/2012/11/8/why-the-republicans-lost.html

here are a few clues…we know these couldn’t possibly be the REAL reasons…

but JUST MAYBE it was because of how he treats people…all of his bullying, abuse, alienating, contempt, insults, lies, secrets, disrespect ADDED UP (see below)…

http://mashable.com/2012/11/10/mitt-romney-is-losing-847-facebook-friends-per-hour/

and

LOLGOP

That the GOP is just flat out wrong when it comes to health care, taxes, education, immigration… *might* have hurt them at the polls…

 “It’s not that our message — we think abortion is wrong, we think same-sex marriage is wrong — didn’t get out. It did get out.

“It’s that the entire moral landscape has changed,” he said. “An increasingly secularized America understands our positions, and has rejected them.”

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/10/us/politics/christian-conservatives-failed-to-sway-voters.html

nah, never mind…

1. he abandoned his own campaign staff

http://www.addictinginfo.org/2012/11/08/romneys-priority-after-losing-election-cancel-staff-credit-cards/

2. employees of companies Bain destroyed

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/49507150/ns/msnbc-the_ed_show/t/ed-show-friday-october-th/#.UJ0glhW-amA

http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/greed-and-debt-the-true-story-of-mitt-romney-and-bain-capital-20120829

3. President Obama and moderators of debates

4. women

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/10/17/mitt-romney-s-binders-full-of-women-comment-sets-internet-ablaze.html

5. working poor and middle class Americans

“In that moment, she also felt intimidated. Here was Romney, who held great power as her church leader and was the head of a wealthy, prominent Belmont family, sitting in her gritty apartment making grave demands. “And then he says, ‘Well, this is what the church wants you to do, and if you don’t, then you could be excommunicated for failing to follow the leadership of the church,’ ” Hayes recalled. It was a serious threat. At that point Hayes still valued her place within the Mormon Church.”

http://www.vanityfair.com/politics/2012/02/mitt-romney-201202

6. minorities

7.  his dog

Mitt Romney “probably” would have been found guilty of animal abuse for strapping his crated dog to the roof of a car for a 12-hour trip.  
http://www.dogsagainstromney.com/

8. his horse

9. gay kid

10. the British

11. auto industry

12. Massachusetts

http://blog.lib.umn.edu/cspg/smartpolitics/2012/11/romney_records_2nd_worst_home.php

13. Governor Christie

14. Folks devastated by losing homes (Hurricane Sandy)

While the President was in DC handling the Hurricane Sandy crisis, Romney was campaigning for himself in Ohio, calling his event “storm relief,” even though Ohio is over 500 miles from the nearest hurricane damage. Source:
http://goo.gl/Asudj

15. company he keeps (Trump, Akin, Mourdock, Ryan)

16. Secrets and LIES

http://maddowblog.msnbc.com/_news/2012/10/26/14725019-chronicling-mitts-mendacity-vol-xl?lite

17. Refusal to show his tax returns

18. Forcing people to vote for him and come to his events

http://thinkprogress.org/climate/2012/08/28/759131/miners-say-they-were-forced-to-attend-romney-campaign-event-without-pay-we-knew-what-would-happen/

19. Racist bigotry/dog whistle ads/words

http://dailycaller.com/2012/09/02/mitt-romneys-shockingly-racist-acceptance-speech/

20. Flip flops

http://www.dailynebraskan.com/opinion/article_c94a672e-27d7-11e2-b134-001a4bcf6878.html

21. Incompetence

22. GOP platform, dirty tricks and voter suppression

yeah, it’s a real mystery why Mitt Romney lost… go figure…

We WON

Hurray…

Women fought the GOP’s 2012 ‘war on women’ and won

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/nov/07/women-fought-gop-2012-waronwomen?CMP=twt_gu

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/07/women-senate-2012-election_n_2086093.html?1352271613

Obama’s win was bigger than John Kennedy’s in 1960 (303 electoral votes, popular vote margin of 112,827), bigger than Richard Nixon’s in 1968 (301 electoral votes, popular vote plurlaity of 512,000), bigger than Jimmy Carter’s in 1976 (297 electoral votes, popular vote margin of 1,683,247), bigger than George W. Bush’s in 2000 (271 electoral votes and a popular vote loss of 543,816).

http://www.thenation.com/blog/171085/obama-bigger-win-kennedy-nixon-carter-bush-or-bush#

Dear GOP, billo, FOX, etc

we realize that you think people are deaf, dumb, blind, and just plain dishonest, crazy, racist and brainwashed and will believe whatever BS you spew. However, Obama got re-elected and all of your ignorant Neanderthals got thrown out because WOMEN, Latinos, African Americans, seniors, vets, students, middle class, hard working people, disabled folks, are UP, and SMART and SEE THRU your lies, tricks and blatantly discriminatory agenda.

We get it. You want to continue robbing, raping and pillaging our country and us and WE were rude enough to SAY NO!!!

We know the difference between competence and incompetence.

STOP BLAMING GOD/Hurricane Sandy, Gov. Christie and blah blah blah, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY, LOOK in the Mirror for once.

http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2012/11/07/a-day-after-loss-conservatives-point-fingers/

maybe being the party of white guys isn’t the recipe for success

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/11/07/1157988/-A-few-Republicans-admit-that-maybe-appealing-only-to-whites-isn-t-a-recipe-for-victory

You got greedy, billionaire donors, parasites, your emperor has no clothes, now you know how we feel…

What goes around comes around.

what a waste…

GROW UP!!!!

We recognize and applaud and vote for HUMAN BEINGS WITH HEARTS who care about us and will fight for US, for what WE want.

We reject your God or anyone’s God / bible telling us what to do, who to love and who to hate.

We said NO loudly, unequivocally to your sexism, racism, and homophobic platform and we will continue to do so.

We are NOT NOT NOT your slaves.

We demand dignity, respect, freedom, justice and liberty for ALL people, ALL Americans.

We ALL, every human being, DESERVES REAL food, shelter, a living wage job, health care, education and to pursue happiness/our DREAMS.

Our country / planet DESERVES dignity, respect, living in harmony, clean air, water, earth and healthy animals and working bridges, roads, high speed trains, and more.

O’Reilly says liberals “want stuff.” If by “stuff” you mean equal rights for all, marriage for all, voting rights for all, and a woman’s right to have control over her own body then yes, we want “stuff” – and that’s why we reelected President Obama.

If asking millionaires and billionaires to PAY MORE taxes is likened to driving off a cliff then you go all Thelma & Louise.  GIVING BACK to this country will NOT kill you. YOU robbers, thieves, parasites and corporate welfare queens, stop whining and PAY YOUR FAIR SHARE.

Stick that in your bibles !!!!

JetBlue Airlines is offering free flights out of the country for angry voters who have vowed to leave the United States if their guy loses the election…Time to start packing Rush Limbaugh, Ann Coulter, etc. –

http://veracitystew.com/?p=45416

God is NOT a Republican

It’s sickening what ‘Christianity’ has become in the United States thanks to jumping in bed with the extreme right 30 years ago. It’s turned into a group of fanatics who spew venom on three topics: Criminalizing women over their private reproductive choices; Bullying gay people and denying them the same freedoms as the rest of us; and, Demonizing and blaming the poor and whining about being ‘forced’ to help them. Jesus said nothing about abortion and homosexuality, and he placed no qualifiers on helping the poor. His commands were universal and did not exclude governments. The agenda of the religious right has nothing to do with the teachings of Jesus. It’s time to call them to repentance. from the christian left

 

“According to the bible, destroying a living fetus does not equate to killing a living human being even though the fetus has the potential of becoming a human being.   One can not kill something that has not been born and taken a breath.   This means that a stillborn would not be considered a human being either.   Of course, every living sperm has the potential of becoming a human being although not one in a million will make it;   the rest are aborted.”

 

“…Those who say, “If you’re a Christian, you have to be against abortion, and therefore you must vote republican,” are simply reciting talking points from false teachers.”

 

http://www.thechristianleftblog.org/1/post/2012/10/the-bible-tells-us-when-a-fetus-becomes-a-living-being.html

Andy Borowitz

Romney says he is now in favor of abortion in cases where it makes someone vote for him.

God is NOT a Republican

watch?v=wTDzt-qKt7k&feature=player_embedded#!

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/10/29/romney-and-gay-people-not-a-happy-story.html

Why, then, did I stop identifying as pro-life? Quite simply, I learned that increasing contraceptive use, not banning abortion, was the key to decreasing the number of abortions.

… I was shocked to find that the countries with the lowest abortion rates are the ones where abortion is most legal and available, and the countries with the highest abortion rates are generally the ones where the practice is illegal.

…Obamacare stands to cut abortion rates by 75%. And yet, the pro-life movement has been leveraged in opposition to Obamacare, and most especially in opposition to the birth control mandate. They don’t believe women should be guaranteed access to free contraception even though this access is the number one proven best way to decrease the number of abortions. That access would, to use the rhetoric of the pro-life movement, prevent the murders of 900,000 unborn babies every year.

…If those who oppose abortion really believes that abortion is murder, they should be supporting programs that would make it easier for poor women to afford to carry pregnancies to term. Instead, they’re doing the opposite.

…The reality is that so-called pro-life movement is not about saving babies. It’s about punishing women for having sex. That’s why they oppose birth control. That’s why they want to penalize women who take public assistance and then dare to have sex, leaving an exemption for those who become pregnant from rape. It’s not about babies.

…It’s not about babies. It’s about controlling women. It’s about making sure they have consequences for having unapproved sex.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2012/10/how-i-lost-faith-in-the-pro-life-movement.html

The term “pro-life” should be a shorthand for respect for the sanctity of life. But I will not let that label apply to people for whom sanctity for life begins at conception and ends at birth. What about the rest of life? Respect for the sanctity of life, if you believe that it begins at conception, cannot end at birth. That radical narrowing of our concern for the sanctity of life is leading to terrible distortions in our society.

Respect for life has to include respect for how that life is lived, enhanced and protected — not only at the moment of conception but afterward, in the course of that life.

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/28/opinion/sunday/friedman-why-i-am-pro-life.html?smid=fb-share&_r=0

GOP: You don’t own me

http://marquee.blogs.cnn.com/2012/10/25/lena-dunham-tracee-ellis-ross-and-more-tell-romney-you-dont-own-me/

FACT: Romney’s running mate Paul Ryan referred to rape as a “method of conception” and co-sponsored a bill to redefine rape with Todd Akin.

Obama on rape on Leno

http://samuel-warde.com/2012/10/obama-blasts-rape-comments-on-the-tonight-show/

First Time

http://www.thenation.com/article/170819/romneys-so-called-moderate-stance-would-outlaw-90-percent-abortions#

“God continued. “So let me just be clear: I don’t want women to get raped—not ever. I don’t think their resulting pregnancies are my divine will. And if a woman is raped, then she has the right to get an abortion, period. I do not agree with Mourdock. I do not agree with the Christian Right. End of story.”

http://www.theonion.com/articles/god-distances-self-from-christian-right,30087/

VOTE!!!!

Made in the USA

Sensata in Freeport, Illinois

Personally, this breaks my heart.

Bain and Romney profit at expense of American workers, 170 families, who worked at plant, some for 40 years, are now out of a job… had to train their Chinese replacements, mostly women who will work for less than $1 an hour, for 12 hour shifts, with ONE day off a month.  How many American families have Bain and Romney destroyed for the sake of a few more million dollars (at the expense of American lives)?  thousands.

The Salt Lake Tribune in Utah, Mormon country, has endorsed President Obama.

http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/opinion/55019844-82/endorsement-romney-obama-president.html.csp

so have the Florida and Denver, CO and Cleveland, Ohio newspapers

http://www.politicususa.com/devastating-papers-endorsing-obama-president.html

http://www.cleveland.com/opinion/index.ssf/2012/10/on_the_basis_of_sound_leadersh.html

Obama is better for Wall Street, Main Street and Sesame Street. It’s time for Romney to go back to Easy Street where he came from.

 

Romney will destroy the middle class. Obama is committed to expanding the middle class.

http://www.eclectablog.com/2012/10/president-obamas-second-term-will-transform-america-in-favor-of-the-middle-class.html

You have to be blind, deaf, insane, bigot, clueless, a bully, and/or greedy to vote for Romney at this point.  How morally vacant, greedy and unpatriotic can Romney be???

snow jobs, weasels and Romnesia

Mitt Romney’s jobs plan is a snow job…

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/19/opinion/krugman-snow-job-on-jobs.html?_r=2&

Taibbi says Mitt is full of bull: “Now there’s no more future to worry about and he’s just casting off from his moorings and being what he basically is at heart, which is a salesman and bullshit artist of the highest order.

“Romney’s realized that numbers don’t matter, and past facts don’t even matter that much: he’s run all fall on completely made-up, mathematically-incoherent jobs and tax plans…”

http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/blogs/taibblog/finally-liberated-from-facts-mitt-romney-the-pure-bull-artist-takes-flight-20121019

Romney suffers from Romnesia…

“Now,” he continued, “I’m not a medical doctor, but i do want to go over the symptoms with you—because i want to make sure nobody else catches it.”

And what might those symptoms be? Here’s one example: “You know if you say if you’re for equal pay, but you can’t say if you’ll sign a bill for equal pay, you might have Romnesia.” And: “If you say you think women should have access to contraceptive care, but you support legislation that would let employers deny contraceptive care, you  might have Romnesia.” And another: “If you say you you’ll protect a woman’s right to choose, but you stand up in a primary debate and say you’d be delighted to ban abortion in all cases, then you definitely have Romnesia.”

But you don’t need to worry, said the President. “If you have Romnesia, here’s the good news—Obamacare covers preexisting conditions. We can fix you! We can make you well.”

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2012/10/19/1147052/-Obama-defines-Romnesia

besides, Romney is a weasel

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/plum-line/post/romnesia-and-the-weasel-factor/2012/10/19/de003690-1a0c-11e2-aa6f-3b636fecb829_blog.html

and Robert Redford does not like Romney’s energy plan

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robert-redford/obama-energy-policy_b_1985714.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000003